Love Jones

When I think about my younger days I am flushed with embarrassment. If I had any advice to give 17-21 year old Anita it would be to relax and enjoy your youth. I was consumed with my relationship. So here's my advice to my young lovers; If you are in a serious relationship right now , trust me IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS . You both are very young , and barely know yourselves. I am 26 and still trying to figure out who I am and Gods purpose for me. You can't give someone something you don't have and if you put up with so much while you're young , when you're supposed to compromise or fight , you'll be too tired. Now, I don't mean to knock all puppy love relationships (because this does not apply to ALL young love relationships), just to shed a little light on some .

Be young , be happy , be joyful! I've learning so much through my trials and tribulations . Did you know that two halfs don't make a whole when it comes to a relationship? If people understood this statement , the rate of divorce would decrease . Here I was, giving my significant other love , patience , kindness , submissiveness; damn near everything the bible says and I couldn't understand why it wasn't reciprocated or why things always went left. It wasn't because he's not "the one" , but because I've been doing this since I was 17 . I didn't give myself time to grow independently.

 Another piece of advice little Anita needed: IT IS OKAY TO LET GO. Our biggest fear of letting go of our relationship was missing out on the potential we saw in one another. IF IT'S FOR YOU, IT'LL STILL BE THERE. I haven't even reached half of my potential. My guy use to always say "you worry about the wrong S#!%" , and guess what? I did (him at the time lol) .

I was always focused on being for someone else, I never gave myself any time to be for myself . That self time is so vital to your character growth . How can you learn yourself if you spend majority of your years trying to learn someone else? Any time you are consumed by another human being to the point where you can't think for yourself , it is an UNHEALTHY union (speaking from experience!).

Morale of the story? Get to know YOU first, and everything else will follow. Learning to love, cherish, and appreciate yourself is very vital when it comes to providing those same qualities to someone else.  Especially if you're in your younger days. Love will always be there , waiting to sweep you off your feet ;)